I was talking to a good  friend of mine not to long ago, of course it was about life and relationships. I questioned him about if I was asking for too much when it comes to relationships …I told him I just want someone who is as attracted to me, as I am to him, someone who is willing to show me that I don’t have to be the first one to make a move, like sending the first text, always being the  one who has to schedule  for us to spend time together. I also told him I want someone who I can  help build, and that can help build me, not necessarily a marriage right now, but if it were to come to that, I would want to be able to feel in my heart, that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with that person, and not think twice.

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By saying that, I realized  I’ve truly grown as a person,  when I was younger that would have never came out of my mouth. I was afraid to be able to open up  my heart to anyone, because I was afraid they would break it, and no one likes to be heartbroken. I used to tell my friends if a guy told me he loved me,  I would just look at him and possibly run ( young and dumb right?). Now, i’m telling my friends, I’m looking for growth, the person I can build with, work towards an empire, carry out a legacy, be the power couple that inspires others in our generation that have giving up on true love,or don’t think it exist anymore.

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Sometimes the thought of that is scary because  in our generation, not too many people are  looking for the same thing. It seems everyone is wrapped around “having a good time,or living in the moment because of “YOLO”.  I just question what happened to chivalry…and how do we get it back when our minds are being corrupted by lyrics, and the things we see on tv. I guess that why I get butterflies in my stomach and can’t help  but to smile when I see social media posts about couples that have been together for over 20 years and counting. Those are the relationships I look up to, because those couple chose to find a way to make it work even in the rough times, signing out wasn’t an easy option .  They are true example of making things work, and to me that’s beautiful.

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The thing about beauty today is it keeps transforming…definition of beauty -sex, money drugs,big boob big butt.. you fill in the rest…NO LOVE,  but once that gets old what do you have left to hold on to…. Sometimes I feel people run from the best thing that could happen to them. Of course you have options, but make sure the option you choose is the what’s ***BEST*** for you in the long run, not that moment, or a few months. In conclusion, I told my friend if you have something good that’s right in front of you, and not giving you a reason to run away… but run to them…than that’s worth giving  them a try and holding on to them.

~Felicia_Yolanda~